Flowers & Setbacks

FLORAL | Violet Petal
I think it’s important to keep a positive attitude in the face of disappointments or setbacks. Not to say you’re not phased or hurt by them. But instead of letting these things deter you from your goal, they can make you stronger if you allow them to.

Unfortunately, even this type of resolve can be tough to hold up when multiple things go wrong around the same time, aka, the bottom falls out. You bandage your wounds while wondering if this is the right road in the first place.

In my life, I’ve failed this test before. I’ve tried to change direction, alter what I was doing, when there was nothing wrong to begin with. You have to understand the difference between a mistake and a need to grow more.

Sometimes, I’ve made terrible mistakes and the only lesson to learn was never do that again!ย Other times, I’ve failed at trying to reach a goal, but it wasn’t the wrong goal to reach for. I simply needed to improve the next time around by planning and preparing better.

My youngest niece tends to text me the deepest questions. How can you tell the difference between the mistake and the simple need to improve?

Sometimes, you can’t. In these cases, you’ll have to try and see what happens. Though, it’s important to be honest with yourself. Listen to that little voice we all have in our heads. When it says, “uhh…this isn’t a good idea” or “this isn’t the best place to be,” we have to pay attention enough to hear it. And don’t let a streak of stubbornness keep you from following its advice. (Guilty).

Plus, I would say, once you know what your gifts are, it’s going to take time to develop the skill to use them. I can tell people, ‘I’m a writer. I have a God-given gift to be able to write.’ True. But that doesn’t mean I’ll write well from day one.

How many hours? How many days? How many years? Writing. Reading. Writing. Reading some more. A marathon. Which brings me to the most important point:

If your heart’s not into it, you’ll quit before you can perform well enough to succeed.

Final point (honest). ๐Ÿ™‚ Family and friends have accused me over the years of being too analytical. In other words, my head gets in the way of my heart. Instead of responding with another, “Ha, I don’t know what you guys are talking about,” I started to think it over. (haha)

Maybe they have a point. Case in point, take the photograph of the flower above. I left it out of my art collection because I thought that other people would not like it. Yes, before I actually shared it with anyone. I finally added it to the online store.

I like it. I don’t know why, exactly. It doesn’t fall within the usual style and colors my work features. Slightly pastel? Looks a little more like a painting. Something’s nice about it, though. My heart says keep it, though my mind can’t explain why I need to.

Eric Christopher Jackson


  1. Someone told me once that I sing too many songs that I like rather than a program of audience favourites, I said “didn’t the audience enjoy my program?”
    He said, “yes, but you’re not following the protocols”.
    I didn’t even know the protocols existed ๐Ÿ˜‚.

  2. lol…I’m not saying anything. I’ll let you be great.

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